Diskarte and Initiative thrives in an environment where there is enough leeway to make decisions, an environment where initiatives are welcomed and even encouraged. More than freedom, it also means that trust exists in the relationship. I believe most parents would want their children to have ‘diskarte’, but the irony is that some of them don’t exactly provide the environment conducive to this decision-making.
When every move you make is corrected every so often, with no reassurance or positive words to counter this, children will be left crippled and unable to decide, to move.
Parents ought to raise children with trust, providing opportunities where trust can thrive; train them in order for the time to come that they can stand on their feet, until such time that they will no longer be dependent on them. Children should not simply follow blindly, just as it is with any other things we believe in, may it be in our faith, our principles. Wouldn’t it be better for children to follow rules set by parents because they fully know the deeper reason behind it? Not just “Because.”
Please, do not look down on your children. Do not deprive them of the right to think critically. Do not deprive them of the opportunity to understand why we believe the way we do.
